Yesterday I had to delete a d**k. Literally.
Let me explain. For some reason, this guy who attended grad school with decided that it would be cool to take pics of him smiling, holding his Bob Johnson, and send them to me. Seriously.
For background purposes, I feel the need to share that he and I have never been romantically involved. I’ve never given him an indication that I was interested. We’re never engaged in flirtation. AND, I haven’t seen him in four years, at the least.
So, when I saw that I’d received an email from him, I didn’t think it would be ANYTHING like that. And to make it worse, I wasn’t the only one who received it. Several other young ladies from our grad school program were also fortunate enough to receive the photos. How classy and inappropriate.
Luckily for me, this isn’t causing me to have an “I’ve had it up to here” moment and swear off men forever. But, it is rather unsettling. I myself have done inappropriate things in the past--I won’t deny that. And for me it does usually involve my cell phone (and crazy text message after I’ve had a few. I never abuse the camera aspect!) But that guy was blatantly disrespecting technology and the ease of communication. Needless to say, he has been “blocked” from my life. I am free from to access my email, and roam Facebook and Myspace without every running into him again.
Now, I know that I have been out of the game for a minute. I’ve also sat on the sidelines for a while. But, is this the new thing? Is this how dudes pick up women now? I mean clearly in his case, he was just looking for some “loving”, but aren’t there tactful ways to do that? And, if one does choose to be so forward, isn’t that what Craigslist is for? Or, am I just overreacting?
Feel free to share your own encounters with inappropriateness—whether you were the victim or the offender. Please. Let me know that these things don’t just happen to me. ☺
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I met this guy in front of my apartment building. He was clean cut, cracked a few jokes, made me laugh. So we exchanged numbers. Later that night he sent me a text (Quick side note...what is up with texting as a way to get to know someone??? You can't pick up the phone?) Basically he was saying that he was bored and he wanted to come keep me company. We all know what that's code for. Um, absolutely not dude! I just met you two hours ago and you think we can get down like that? Had he tried that before and it worked? Needless to say, he got deleted.
Darlin, it could've been worse - He could've given you his d**k in a box. (^^^youtube link)
LOL
Ehhh, other than the midnight texts to "come chill" from men whom I barely know (last time was last weekend, smh), most dudes know that I'm not the one. Can't blame them for trying. I mean, most guys mistake friendliness as an invitation to f*ck, right? RIght??
although i have never been a victim of such inappropriateness, all i want to know was the hell was dude thinking. you don't send someone you haven't had any type of dealings with that kind of mess!!!! i think guys that text inappropriate things have no game and don't know how to approach a real woman. unfortunately this is becoming the norm and anyone that does that to me is definitely blacklisted..... so the response is so long,but.... EEW!!!!!!!
Inappropriateness is a matter of opinion.
With that said, you can best believe that some of the things that dudes try on you have worked in the past. Such is the same with calls of "YO MA! WHATS GOOD!"
So, before you get upset with the guy for coming at you that way, look for the ghetto chickenheaded freak that accepted that stuff before and slap her in the mouth & shove some self-respect down her throat. After all, for every actual LADY we run into, there's at least 2-3 smutbags we were able to jumpoff with just by treating her to a combo platter from Sum Tings Wong, a dub sack and, a Snapple (cuz it's made from the best stuff on Earth!)
The point is that we don't know if you are a LADY or a freak with low self-esteem until we actually get to know you. Either way, you are a potential J.O. and YOU KNOW IT!
PLEASE don't act like you've never been or never wanted a straight up JUMPOFF!
It all comes down to what someone is looking for. If they are looking for nothing more than chickenheaded, possibly STD-ridden, anything goes, skeet skeet & skeet summore kinda chick then they are gonna come at you like that and it seems as if all of you can tell what a dude is looking for. It just seems you are upset because HE thinks YOU might be that type. Again, with that just remember that no one knows what you are about until we find out.
Now, as far as sending dick pics...
One thing you have to keep in mind is that as men, we are more attracted to the physical and we equate physical attraction with sex. This is why when you show more skin or wear clothes that accentuate your curves and assets (not necessarily tight)we tend to go crazy b/c you've ignited that part of our brain that tells us "GET THAT ASS SON!". We as men also forget that women - I MEAN LADIES - think differently and it's when you feel comfortable with a guy that your brain tells you "LET HIM HIT IT GIRL!". Is it crass? Yes, for most women. But, there's always some chick that looked at it and said "OHHHH...LOOK! DICK! IT'S NICE N BIG & SHINY!!"
It's like when you get those mass mailings for services & products you wouldn't think of buying. There's always a percentage of people that will all of a sudden feel the need to buy what's being offered.
So, in essence, the guy sending dick pics to all women he meets is practicing a proven marketing strategy!
Applaud his effort, though you may reject his technique!
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