I’ve had a really annoying week, full of annoying nonsense, all due to the actions of morons that I allow to have too much of an effect on my life. Better yet, I allowed them to. That will not be happening again. With this post, I am purging myself of the negativity that at least one of them brought to my life.
When I started this blog, I told myself that I would not do any male bashing. I didn’t want the site to have that “tone.” And I still plan to stick to that decree. But, I never said that I wouldn’t people bash. Two different things, right?
So, a couple of posts ago, I mentioned that the most recent guy I was seeing didn’t work out. I am now ready to share that story. And, as they like to say, I’m about to GO IN!
So, I believe that I’d mentioned that the guy and I were getting along great, but that I had doubts and wasn’t sure we were on the same page. But, it wasn’t over. We were still involved. I was still receiving texts declaring that he loved and missed me. That he was thinking of me and couldn’t wait to see me. Blah, blah, blah. Yada, yada, yada. Some of my issues with him when we first dated years ago when I was only 17 and he was about 19, were that he was flaky, immature (as expected from a teenager) and somewhat of a liar. Okay, he WAS a liar. But, I didn’t care back then. We were teens and how serious could things get anyway.
But, just because I didn’t care, didn’t mean I didn’t remember who he was back then. And sadly, more than a decade later, he is the same person. No personal growth at all. Still a fact falsifier, an eternal teenager (even dates the same age group as he did back then. Sad, right?) and the ULTIMATE flake. I’m just being honest.
For future reference (because I suspect you will read this), here is a tip:
Don’t send a woman a text saying you genuinely love and miss her, only to post a pic of some hoe bag (thanks for that one A!) as your default on your “social networking site.” (Link to send hate mail to available upon request. Just kidding...unless you want to....) Especially when you know that I will see it. Just not smart dude. That behavior may fly with a “girl”. But, what should have I expected? When someone is used to eating happy meals on the regular, they usually don’t know how to use a steak knife properly. And in case that one is over your head, it basically means that you don’t know how to have a healthy ADULT relationship with a real WOMAN.
So, in case you were wondering why I asked you to erase my contact info, now you know. Which is half the battle, they say. For you, the other half is growing up.
Alright, I’m done. Sorry for putting you guys through this, but I needed to let go of my angry.
Peace!
6 comments:
I'm sorry to report that I have only one thing to say.
Dating a much younger woman doesn't say too much about a man's character b/c most men would prefer to have a tighter piece, as long as he isn't looking for anything too serious.
Look at Russell Simmons and the like. He always has a nice young piece. Is it b/c he can't find a woman on his level mentally? Certainly not! He enjoys a nice tight, firm piece of a$$!
However, looking to settle down with a much younger woman or a teenager, for that matter, is absurd. There is NO WAY an 18 or 19 yr old is compatible with a 30 yr old - no matter how mature she is for her age.
So, when you see a much older man with a much younger woman, you can assume it's for one of 2 reasons:
1 - he enjoys a nice tight piece (who wouldn't??!!)
or 2 - he's fool!
Dave,
As usual, pretty interesting comment (and thanks for limiting the length this time).
A few things though:
Let's not forget that these days, 18-19 years are sharing their "Happy Meals" a lot earlier than they used to and therefore, things are probably not as tight as you would assume.
And not to sound catty or anything, but A LOT of these Happy Meal sharers are not looking too good these days either. I was commenting to friend the other day that I should NOT be looking better than them, especially when I have a kid and a few good years on them. They should learn that water, moisturizer and exercise does a body good.
But, in this example dude is just immature. He needs to deal with that age group because only they will accept the nonsense he has to offer.
These days you can find someone who is tight or sloppy ranging in age from 18-45 so the physical can't be all that a man is seeking when he dates a signifcantly younger partner. I've seen 18 year old girls with guts hanging over their skinny jeans, 30 year olds with abs of steel and vice versa. When a man has nothing to offer, besides spiratic conversations, he needs to date girls who expect little more than that or at least have the time to remain hopeful that it could turn into something more "one day". An assertive grown woman looking for real companionship has no time for "one day" & all the game playing that comes along with waiting until then.
To clarify, I was speaking in general.
Younger women feel different to the touch (So I've heard). The "Happy Meals" are just fine b/c usually, a younger woman wants to please an older man and in this day & age it's cool for them to be freaks. But you are all right. Any real man would go after a real woman just for the simple fact that there's less drama if you're the type that can keep it real and also, grown women know what they want & how to get it....most of the time..
Dave said "Younger women feel different to the touch (So I've heard)."
Well guys is it true? Is it that much of a difference? Let us know.
I also don't think that dating a much younger woman says anything in particular about a man. Nowadays, for purely political reasons, there are all kinds of statutory rape laws, mostly in the U.S, because of the high degree of interracial mingling,...If you go back 20 years, you'll find that the average age for a woman to marry or settle down was 16 and sometimes much younger and the average age for the man to marry was around late twenties and early thirties when he would be financially viable...my father was 37 and my mother was only 17 when they got married, they had a happy long marriage with five successful children.
But I do believe that as women get older, they tend to resent that natural attraction that men feel toward younger females...and it's perfectly understandable.....just like polished and educated men resent the natural attraction that women feel toward brute and rough men.
There is a darwinian twist to it. The younger the woman, the healthier her eggs are, thus mating is more likely to be successful and ensuring that the man passes on his genes.
For women, the more rugged and physically intimidating a man is, the more likely he will be able to provide a woman's offsprings the security and stability that are needed in a harsh and hostile environment.
Eventhough technology has allowed us more latitude and opportunities for survival, our genes have not kept pace.
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