Quality Over Quantity

I’ve been quiet lately. Sorry. But, a hectic work schedule, blogger’s block and at times pure exhaustion have kept me from posting.

Also, being that this is a blog partly about dating, it’s hard for me to post content when I’m not hitting the scene. The golden question these days has been, “Are you seeing anyone?”

And the answer is no. It’s not that the random guy doesn’t approach me here and there. Just this morning some guy offered to take me out to lunch. (Sure, he was questionable in appearance and mental stability, but an invite is an invite, right?)

But, that brings me to my point. I am all about quality over quantity these days. I know it’s good to “get back out there” for experience sake, but with limited free time, I don’t want to waste it. As I told someone recently, my weeding out process is SICK these days. I can usually tell from initial contact/phone interaction if you are even worth considering.

Here are some examples of what is on my mental checklist:

1) I am a mom first and foremost. I don’t have many conversations where my daughter isn’t mentioned. If you show ZERO interest in the basic details about her (name, age, etc.), that’s a red flag for me. Now, I am not looking for a daddy for her. She already has one. But, we’re a package deal, dude.

2) On the other hand, don’t show TOO much interest in her from the start. That is also a red flag for me, and I think you know why.

3) Show some interest in ME. In the past, I’ve wasted time on people who by the third conversation still had no clue what I did for a living. That’s a basic question. Now, I know that I am not always an open book. But, my policy is if you ask, I will tell. I have no problem sharing. But if you are working towards getting to know me, shouldn’t that be part of the initial conversation anyway?

These are just a few things that I look for. There are more “criteria” on the list, but I can’t give away all my secrets. And please don’t judge me for even having criteria. I’m a mother. I’m dating for two. So, this is why I haven’t been out there much lately. Sadly, most guys don’t make it past those first three examples.

If you have a list, no matter how crazy or sane, feel free to share bits and pieces from it. I like to know that I am not alone.

Peace!