A while back someone in my Facebook feed (you know who you are! LOL) posted something along the lines of, “I’m sorry, if you have kids, you’re not single.”
It’s been a GOOD while since I’ve updated this thing, but that status update never left my mind. And what better time to address it than Mother’s Day weekend. So here goes.
I will tell anyone in a minute that I am dating for two. I feel that as a mother, that my decisions about my personal life affect my child. And that includes who I consider to date. I would never consider a partnership with someone who I didn’t think I could expose my daughter to. So, from that angle I agree with the comment.
On the flipside, my child is not considered baggage at all. Not to me at least. She has changed my life for the better in ways that I didn’t know I could improve upon. I’ve always had my business together, but she helped me make choices and just be even more responsible. She is a blessing. That being said, I would never even consider dating anyone who felt that I was not “single” because of her. She is the most important part of my life.
Now, the purpose of this is not to throw shade or attack the person who wrote that status update. He’s cool people. In fact, his honesty should be commended. It saves busy single moms like me who are constantly juggling our careers, families and social lives from wasting time on a “prospect” who is not suitable for us. More men should just be upfront.
But, um, if I am not supposed to check the “single” box, what am I supposed to do dammit? I think I will be selecting that until “Single with an amazingly beautiful, smart, loving and WONDERFUL child” becomes an option. And not to toot my own horn, but she gets all of that from her mama! LOL
Ladies, have an amazing Mother’s Day. Be pampered. Enjoy yourself! And to my male readers, do something to show how much the hard work is appreciated. You’re turn is next month. The love shall be reciprocated!
1 comment:
nice :)
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